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A Quote of Love
“If you want to be loved, be loving.”Dr. Norris Chumley
The Spirit of the Islands
Hawaii is one of my favorite places on earth and the Big Island of Hawaii holds a special kind of magic for me. With worries the last couple days of Tsunami warnings my thoughts have been on Hawaii’s islands and my friends who live there. So this post is for each of you; may the islands remain safe and the spirit of Aloha surround each of you.
Quote of the Week
I’ve always been in the right place at the right time. Of course I steered myself there.Bob Hope
Breaking Free
My Friday quote comes from Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, pg 161.
The beginning of freedom from the pain-body lies first of all in the realization that you have a pain body. Then, more important, in your ability to stay present enough, alert enough, to notice the pain-body in yourself as a heavy influx of negative emotion when it becomes active.
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How Do We Move Beyond Pain That Feels Greater Than We Can Bear?
Dad and I before I was three years old.
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A Quote of Love
“If you want to be loved, be loving.”Dr. Norris Chumley
The Spirit of the Islands
Hawaii is one of my favorite places on earth and the Big Island of Hawaii holds a special kind of magic for me. With worries the last couple days of Tsunami warnings my thoughts have been on Hawaii’s islands and my friends who live there. So this post is for each of you; may the islands remain safe and the spirit of Aloha surround each of you.
Quote of the Week
I’ve always been in the right place at the right time. Of course I steered myself there.Bob Hope
Breaking Free
My Friday quote comes from Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, pg 161.
The beginning of freedom from the pain-body lies first of all in the realization that you have a pain body. Then, more important, in your ability to stay present enough, alert enough, to notice the pain-body in yourself as a heavy influx of negative emotion when it becomes active.
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“If you want to be loved, be loving.”Dr. Norris Chumley
Hawaii is one of my favorite places on earth and the Big Island of Hawaii holds a special kind of magic for me. With worries the last couple days of Tsunami warnings my thoughts have been on Hawaii’s islands and my friends who live there. So this post is for each of you; may the islands remain safe and the spirit of Aloha surround each of you.
Dad and I before I was three years old.
This post is a reprint
I was rereading some of my old posts, reflecting on how far I’ve come with my websites, writing and efforts to help others heal and I came across this one. There are so many moments in life when we face challenge, pain and doubt. There have been many moments when I felt others judging my life. It was during that time when I wrote this post. It still holds true and I hope it will touch my readers and remind them to take a step back and reflect, rather than make a quick judgment on those in their lives.
A degree of sensitivity is necessary when we make judgements on situations and people in our lives or those we encounter in our day. We never really know the space from which another is coming and despite appearances we need to to take a deep breath and realize life isn’t necessarily the perfect picture it may seem. I think at times people judge situations and circumstances without realizing in any way the depth of the situation or the complexity involved. I’m certain I have done the same thing without realizing it.
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How Do We Move Beyond Pain That Feels Greater Than We Can Bear?
Dad and I before I was three years old.
It Isn’t Always as it Seems
This post is a reprint
I was rereading some of my old posts, reflecting on how far I’ve come with my websites, writing and efforts to help others heal and I came across this one. There are so many moments in life when we face challenge, pain and doubt. There have been many moments when I felt others judging my life. It was during that time when I wrote this post. It still holds true and I hope it will touch my readers and remind them to take a step back and reflect, rather than make a quick judgment on those in their lives.
A degree of sensitivity is necessary when we make judgements on situations and people in our lives or those we encounter in our day. We never really know the space from which another is coming and despite appearances we need to to take a deep breath and realize life isn’t necessarily the perfect picture it may seem. I think at times people judge situations and circumstances without realizing in any way the depth of the situation or the complexity involved. I’m certain I have done the same thing without realizing it.
Read more »The Peace of Healing a Heart
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How We Say Goodbye
The process of grieving and saying goodbye to loved ones is as individual as our very personalities. How we approach closure is not as important as actually having closure. We all need time and our personal beliefs to allow for closure in a loved ones passing. For some of us, myself included a service with a few personal mementos, a video slide show and selected photos is a lovely part of closure. A service allows me to focus my attention and heart on all I treasured about the person in my life and to hear bits of humor, love and memories that other people treasured as well. It allows me time for tears, for laughter and for honoring all the special traits I loved about the person passing.
The memorial is presented as a final goodbye, a final honoring of the soul passing, but the reality is that it’s only the beginning of a long goodbye. There are many stages and emotions in our grieving procress. At first we may be so shell shocked we are simply numb, for others there is anger at the unfairness of the passing, still others may bury their emotion along side the loved one, refusing to deal with the emotional pain they feel, instead remaining stoic.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there is a process and no matter how we deny it, or refuse to face it, the process will go on and we will find ourselves overcome with tears, sadness or anger at odd times when we are under great stress. We may break down when something touches our heart and reminds us of our loved one. I can remember many moments when my grief has overcome me and I’ve cried unexpectedly. A few years ago as I wandered through Hallmark around my mom’s birthday, which is also Mother’s Day I was overcome with emotion as I looked at figurines, which my mom had collected. As I looked around and turned a corner my eyes lit on a fairy/angel figurine and in that moment I felt my mom watching over me. She was showing me through that tiny angel that she is there, watching, caring and loving me. It was a sweet moment of spiritual comfort. That fairy angel figurine now graces my dresser and makes me smile when I look at her.
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An Open Heart and Open Mind
Control is a perception and a fallacy for each of us. We have control for as long as a situation is going our way. One day each of us wakes up realizing there are moments far beyond our experiences and far beyond what we can accept, even with our heart and mind open. An open heart allows us to take risks and to explore places we would otherwise feel incapable of exploring. It doesn’t mean we’ll feel safe every minute, but we will feel willing to be there, out of our comfort zone.
When we block our heart and close ourselves off we close off opportunities and experiences. We want to protect ourselves and maintain our comfort zone. In those times we feel safer but our opportunity for new experiences and growth shift down to a lesser degree of growth. Sometimes we shift back and forth, as we feel prepared to step outside ourselves and our comfort zone.
There is no right or wrong, simply a willingness to accept that life can be different and or better than we’ve previously known. We learn with experience that opportunities present themselves and we find new and more complete happiness as we allow our experiences to shift and expand. We may find our life different than we’ve ever known. We may see our experiences as foreign and uncomfortable because it’s not our usual pattern. With time we experience a new fullness and aliveness as our heart and experiences expand and reflect a new, greater comfort zone.
Read more »Living in Gratitude
It is truly amazing how life can shift in ten months. If someone had told me I would be living the life I’m living today a year ago I wouldn’t have believed them. A loving, caring deeply committed relationship has always been a priority to me, yet a year ago I wasn’t even focused on “relationship” I was focused on moving into my new townhouse, downsizing, selling my house, finishing my book and getting my website online.
Yes, I had a list of qualities I’d written down in a journal of what was important in a man and in a relationship. I had long past released my need for a relationship and I was happy doing my own thing. I was living a pretty toned down life in comparison to the complete chaos I’d been living in after my father died. After several years of dealing with an estate, a business and a house along with my grief I was happy to be living what felt like a more normal life. I was writing nearly every day, I was downsizing and I was focused on finding a publisher for my book.
Enter my friends with well meaning intentions about the fact that I should look at dating. I had been alone for over two years with the exception of a man from my past who visited a couple times for a week long vacation. Dating? I understood the concept but couldn’t fathon creating the right situation. I knew few enough people in Tampa/ St Petersburg and the thought of trying to find a date was not all that appealing to me. Yes a relationship was appealing. I loved the thought of sharing my life with a treasured man and of course I missed sex and intimacy. But I wasn’t willing to dive into sex and intimacy just to have a man in my life. Things had to be in the right order.
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Breaking Free
My Friday quote comes from Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth, pg 161.
The beginning of freedom from the pain-body lies first of all in the realization that you have a pain body. Then, more important, in your ability to stay present enough, alert enough, to notice the pain-body in yourself as a heavy influx of negative emotion when it becomes active.
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The Law of Dharma
Renaissance Island
A Travel Dream Becomes Reality
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Flamingo Beach
My Journey of Creating a Dream
My journey, the journey of becoming a writer, speaker and healer of hearts began with my own losses, my own grief and my desire to do something beautiful with the experiences I’ve lived through. This video details what I’m trying to accomplish and asks for the support and help of each of you to share my story and video with those in your life.
My video, The Creation of a Dream.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0v0NnH3jPY0
Namaste,
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