Apr 18 2010
The Irony of Healing
There are times when our experiences overwhelm us. When what we face and experience feels like more than we can handle. A couple weeks ago I had a strong feeling to write about the healing that had taken place for me this past year after the end of my love relationship. When I wrote my previous post spirit gave me about two good hours to soak up a feeling of having really made progress in my healing and then WHAM, I got slammed with another wave of loss and pain.
I was stunned to learn this man, who I had loved, had married the previous day. He didn’t even have enough respect for me to tell me himself. Does that surprise me, yes and no. Yes, because I expected more from a man who professed at one time to love me. I would have expected a basic respect for the relationship we shared. Especially given that it only ended one year ago.
In retrospect there were times in our relationship when I felt he didn’t know how to respect a woman fully. When I felt disrespected and told him that. In that realization, I’m sad and angry. It makes me sad to realize he didn’t learn from the mistakes. Respect is not negotiable. It was his responsibility to tell me himself that he was getting married.
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