Lisa Overman » Inspirational Movies and DVD

How Do We Move Beyond Pain That Feels Greater Than We Can Bear?

ahealedheart — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:47:01 +0000

Dad and I before I was three years old.

As I watched My Sister’s Keeper I was touched by the raw pain of Kate’s own struggle to make sense of the changes her family faced through her illness and the devestation of her loss as they watched her die. At one point in the movie Kate’s sister asked the judge how it felt when her daughter died. I could answer immediately, having faced the loss of my daughter and my parents as well as others near and dear to me in the last decade.

For me their loss feels like life has ended. It feels like all the blood has drained from my heart; I’m standing, breathing, yet feel empty and dead. It feels like my life is over.

I was touched by the honesty of what this family faced and how they each handled it so differently, yet in the end when Kate passed they found a way to honor her memory with a yearly family vacation to a place she loved; the wide open spaces of Montana. For each of us how we bear our grief and find our way through our pain differs. Yet honestly no matter who we are, what we do for a living or where we live we each feel the depth of our losses deep in our soul. No matter if we reach out or go within we must take steps, baby steps forward toward our healing.

Yes, our life as we knew it is over; the life we desired blown to bits and we’re left to take one tiny step at a time into a future we really don’t understand or care for. Our loss is deep and lasting. With time and effort our healing will begin. I heard Nate Burkus say on Oprah recently that after his partners death he didn’t want to do much of anything for four months, that he was living but felt dead. He often thought, “what’s the point of it all.” He would often stay in bed grieving.

It’s true, in the depth of our loss many of us have those times , I certainly had them. I had days when dying felt easier than living, when my mother’s loss felt like the end of my life. How do we move beyond the loss that devestates us? We take small steps. We find support whether it be a therapist, our family or friends or a healthy combination of all three. Maybe we talk to a minister or we take comfort in silent prayer. The important thing is to take a step. Each small step will lead to a bigger step when we’re ready, until we reach a place where we can take a breath again without feeling pain.

With many small steps we will reach a day when we wake up and feel a smile cross our face; when for so long there was nothing to smile about. There is no magic that will heal us. Somehow, with time after living in our pain we realize we can honor the memory and love of the one’s we’ve lost better by living joyfully. As many, myself included can attest, when a loved one is dying they usually express their desire for us to live fully. They want our happiness. They don’t want us living daily in pain or living empty lives, wishing for them. For me the best way to honor my loved ones is to touch other lives and show people through my example that there’s a way through the pain and loss.

My life looks different than I expected. I’m actually laughing as I write that statement. It’s as if a bulldozer destroyed my life and one block at a time, through a sea of tears I began to rebuild it. Did I want this life? Not so much really, but clearly God did. I now focus my life on writing, maintaining a website that supports and inspires others in grief or loss and I treasure those I love deeply. I’ve learned life is short, pain is very real and we are best served living life with as much joy as our hearts can hold. It happens one step at a time. Take that first step with me.

You Can Heal Your Life

ahealedheart — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 01:00:42 +0000

Louise Hay you can Heal your life.

I have written about this movie, “you can Heal your life” previously on my site. I watched the interview portion of the dvd with Louise Hay again tonight. I was looking to gain some additional insight for my own life. As I listened I was touched over and over by her words and her inspiring thoughts. I replayed the interview about four times so that I could get each of these quotes. Her words and her thoughts are so deeply moving and inspiring that I wanted to share them here on my web site.

Begin to train yourself to be aware of what your thinking. One of the ways to do that is to periodically say, “what am I thinking?” Would I like this thought to create my life? It takes a while to do that. Even on the smallest level it can make changes. We begin this by doing, doing affirmations. Do them deliberately, that is making positive statements about your life. Do it morning and night, or twice a day or even at lunch. As you do this, things will begin to change. I call it getting the green lights and the parking spots. They are small things but they are good things.

What I like people to do is stand in front of the mirror and do their affirmations. There is something very powerful about looking in your own eyes and accepting yourself or rejecting yourself. When you get up in the morning go to the mirror and start your day by saying “your name, I love you, I really really love you.” Miracles will begin to happen. If you can begin your day with that it’s very very powerful.

If you do a good general statement about yourself the universe will figure out how to manifest that, how to bring it into your life. It’s like planting a seed and letting it grow.

Gratitude works alot. The more you’re grateful for your life, the more the universe gives you to be grateful about. The universe loves gratitude.

You Can Heal Your Life

ahealedheart — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 21:21:02 +0000

Photo Credit: Hay House Publishing

You Can Heal Your Life is a life affirming and life changing movie. This dvd is a two disk package. One disk is the movie. The second disk is a series of interviews with well known spiritual speakers and writers. Among them Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Gregg Braden and Dr. Christine Northrup, Doreen Virtue and Cheryl Richardson.

These two videos are filled with wonderful insights, inspiration, information and guidance. I have now watched these two video’s several times. Sometimes focusing on the movie, other days focusing on the insights and information in the interview dvd. Today I’m reminded what a gift this dvd is and how life transforming it can be for all of us when we use these techniques and strategies in our life.