When we block our heart and close ourselves off we close off opportunities and experiences. We want to protect ourselves and maintain our comfort zone. In those times we feel safer but our opportunity for new experiences and growth shift down to a lesser degree of growth. Sometimes we shift back and forth, as we feel prepared to step outside ourselves and our comfort zone.

There is no right or wrong, simply a willingness to accept that life can be different and or better than we’ve previously known. We learn with experience that opportunities present themselves and we find new and more complete happiness as we allow our experiences to shift and expand. We may find our life different than we’ve ever known. We may see our experiences as foreign and uncomfortable because it’s not our usual pattern. With time we experience a new fullness and aliveness as our heart and experiences expand and reflect a new, greater comfort zone.

Not everyone feels ready to expand their relationship horizons, some prefer the zone they know, even when it doesn’t always work for them. It’s the devil they knew, so rather than create a new kind of life they prefer to stay with what they know, even if it doesn’t truly serve them. There’s a line drawn in the sand and only they can decide when, in their heart of hearts that they are willing to cross it and begin to live life in a deeper more authentic level. It’s always a choice and a chance to love anew and to live breathlessly.
Namaste

Yes, I had a list of qualities I’d written down in a journal of what was important in a man and in a relationship. I had long past released my need for a relationship and I was happy doing my own thing. I was living a pretty toned down life in comparison to the complete chaos I’d been living in after my father died. After several years of dealing with an estate, a business and a house along with my grief I was happy to be living what felt like a more normal life. I was writing nearly every day, I was downsizing and I was focused on finding a publisher for my book.

Enter my friends with well meaning intentions about the fact that I should look at dating. I had been alone for over two years with the exception of a man from my past who visited a couple times for a week long vacation. Dating? I understood the concept but couldn’t fathon creating the right situation. I knew few enough people in Tampa/ St Petersburg and the thought of trying to find a date was not all that appealing to me. Yes a relationship was appealing. I loved the thought of sharing my life with a treasured man and of course I missed sex and intimacy. But I wasn’t willing to dive into sex and intimacy just to have a man in my life. Things had to be in the right order.

After a couple months of listening to my friends ideas about dating  I actually met someone incredible in a very unusual circumstance; which I shall keep private at this time. It was a meeting/introduction that I consider to be spirit driven. Those close to me who know the details are amazed and thrilled that spirit led Rob and I to meet as we did. He has basically all the wonderful traits that I had prayed for in a man. it was as if God and my loved ones who had passed into spirit heard my every wish and desire and whisked this man into my life.  Okay I will say I might have been wise to ask for a patient man when I was forming my list of desired traits,  but after ten month he has become a much more patient man with me…lol

It’s amazing what happens when we just allow spirit to unfold events and experiences that will bring joy and gratitude into our lives. I couldn’t have dreamed up a more amazing man than Rob for my life. He’s everything I could have asked for and more. Spirit was guiding our meeting and my life, that’s clear. I feel so very blessed to share my life with Rob and his children and family. They have brought an entirely new dimension to my life.  

I realize now in retrospect that it was key for us to meet when we did, when my life was pretty low key and I had a lot of energy and time for a new relationship. It has been beneficial to both of us to have the amount of quality time together that we have. With both of us having flexible careers, his as a firefighter/paramedic and mine as a writer we’re fortunate to get unexpected treasured time together. I realize as I work with a web designer on my site and look to the future to a moment when I will have a publisher I understand the timing of meeting Rob. We needed this time to bond and to realize how much we treasure the other. I know with working at getting my book published that my time will be divided and that expectations upon me will be greater. It will be joyful work and spiritually satisfying but none the less a demand on my time that takes time from Rob and his children. Spirit knew what it was doing when it gave us this treasured time to create a loving, warm, caring relationship. It is a gift in my life…….in most moments…lol and I believe in Rob’s as well. I live in gratitude for the gifts of my life and the gift of Rob and his caring warmth and sense of humor in my life. Spirit is guiding my life and I feel a deep sense of gratitude for the gift of Rob and his children Taylor and Montana in my life.